There is little personal control over grief.
It overwhelms without warning, at the most inconvenient times.
It feels like fear and we respond accordingly.
At times we run from grief avoiding it at all costs.
At other times we fight back becoming angry, frustrated, just plain not nice to be around.
While at other time we are frozen in the face of grief, unable to do anything at all.
How grief manifests is unique to both the individual and the situation, it is unpredictable.
People want to offer comfort, food, cards,... to give voice to their response to your grief.
In turn they expect you to respond with gratitude that they have taken the time to acknowledge your loss.
How do you do this if fighting or fleeing is your response?
Be mindful of how grief is affecting you, how you are responding to it.
Most importantly when offering comfort be open to the response you receive.
You have become one of those expected moments when grief has overwhelmed.