I hate her!
She is always ruining my fun!
I wish she was not my sister!
Angry words from a very angry and emotionally distraught big sister, while her little sister the focus of her anger plays happily away with her kite.
Anger in a ten year old is all about raw emotion as she is just learning to temper her anger with rational thought. All we could do was stay with her and acknowledge what she was feeling and help her breath her way to the other side.
Once there with just a little help she rationally looked at her situation and picked another spot to fly her kite.
How often have we become consumed with raw emotion, overcome with anger?
Has it ever resulted in a positive outcome while it remained raw?
Breathing through the initial emotional reaction is the only thing we can do and once we have control our rational brain can take positive action, because
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" ~ Buddha
Be mindful when children around you get angry to be present with them do not try to talk them away from the edge- to be rational, be there to ensure they land softly and do not take anyone else with them.
And be mindful that in being angry you are only hurting yourself.
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