What Comes Next

Have you ever just wanted the world to stop changing, just for a day, so you can catch up.

The older we get the more change becomes the ever looming shadow in the corner of a dark room, the monster in the closet the thing that keeps you up at night.

How did change become something sinister?

When we are young change does not happen fast enough and we wish we were older. 

Now that we are older change has become something we fear, something we rail against and we begin to reminisce about the good old days.

Yet change is a constant part of the human existence as necessary as air, water, food and love.

Too often as we become grandparents and great grandparents we fight change and in doing so we make our world smaller and smaller until all we have left is our anger at how our bodies, our families, the world has changed and in doing so let us down, abandoned us. 

The reality is we abandoned ourselves, the life we could have had if we had remained open to change, to what comes next.

Change is very frightening and exciting at the same time. 

The best way to stay open to what comes next is to ensure that you participate in the life of your community, church, neighbourhood, your family.

Ask questions, try new things, join groups, most importantly ask for help and take pride in the fact that you belong to people who are ready to help you.

Be mindful of what you are saying no too, how you are closing door of opportunity because you are afraid of change.

At Aunt Elaine’s funeral a young woman easily 40 years younger than Elaine talked about how Elaine would be missed by the young mother’s bible study group.  Elaine attended this group faithfully each week bringing with her cinnamon buns.  

Aunt Elaine embraced change she was open to what came next.

Grandma Snyder

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